The Intimates is a powerful and compassionate debut novel about the varieties of romance. Spanning years and continents, beginnings and endings, it is about two gifted and striving people who discover themselves in the reflection they see in each other, and how their affinity anchors them at critical points in their lives.

Maize and Robbie are drawn to each other from the first time they meet in high school. When it becomes obvious that their relationship won’t be sexual, they establish a different kind of intimacy: becoming each other’s “human diaries.” Their passionate friendship plays out against a backdrop of charged connections with lovers and would be lovers, family members, teachers, and bosses. For the better part of a decade they’re inseparable fellow travelers, but ultimately they must confront the underside of the extreme and complicated closeness that has sustained them since they were teenagers.

Full of indelible characters, engrossing situations, and observations as sharply witty as they are lovely and profound, The Intimates renders the wonders and disappointments of becoming an adult, the thrills and mesmerizing illusions of sex, and the secrets we keep from others and ourselves as we struggle to locate our true character.


“Ralph Sassone has created two of the most compelling characters in years . . . Often funny, The Intimates is a touching platonic love story from beginning to end.”
—John Moore,

“A meticulous, devastating chiaroscuro portrait of stifled longing.”
― Mary Gaitskill, author of Veronica and Don’t Cry

“A deeply appealing novel about friendship, love, and the passage of time. I enjoyed it enormously.”
― Meg Wolitzer, author of The Interestings and The Ten-Year Nap

“I loved this beautiful, serious book. Not enough fiction has been written about friendship, and to see this significant part of human experience dealt with so expertly and so passionately is cause for celebration. Maize and Robbie are as memorable as people I might actually have known and not just read about. I found The Intimates deeply romantic, and smart about everything that really matters.”
― Sigrid Nunez, author of Salvation City and Sempre Susan: A Memoir of Susan Sontag

“This stunning novel is about sexual awakening and every permutation of its transformative powers. Sassone has found the magic to convey the urgency, headiness, and mystery of youth in prose laden with humor and wisdom. A brilliant debut.”
― Jill Ciment, author of Heroic Measures

“Sassone unfolds their [his two main characters’ ] parallel coming-of-age stories–the inevitable romantic fumblings and sexual awakenings, the ugly apartments and awful first jobs–with a delicate, melancholy knowingness.”
― Leah Greenblatt, Entertainment Weekly

“Sassone has a keen understanding of the professional indignities and romantic frustrations of the young and well educated.”
The New Yorker

“A poetic novel about the deep bonds of friendship, the power of love, and the lengths people will go to find a place in the world…The Intimates churns with desire…The prose is haunting…a tour-de-force of youthful passions and disillusionment.”

“Sassone writes about the absurdities of liberal arts colleges, the bond between gay men and straight women and, most impressively, the scary/thrilling pull of sex…[He] has a melancholic voice that keeps Maize and Robbie just off-kilter enough to feel fresh…With The Intimates, Sassone has created a friendship so deep, so utterly believable, that you feel jealous of Maize and Robbie’s closeness–and of Sassone’s easy talent.”
― Mark Peikert, NY Press

“The emotional insight of Ralph Sassone’s The Intimates puts one in mind of Claire Messud, Joanna Smith Rakoff or Julia Glass, novelists who trace the evolution of friendships among smart New York types, gay and straight . . . A large supporting cast is fully imagined . . . Even those who appear for a few pages, like Maize’s stepfather, come right off the page.”
—Marion Winik, Newsday

“Exceptional first-time novelist Sassone’s lost characters are enticingly conflicted and acidly funny as they navigate painful predicaments…Add to that inventive metaphors, an ability to write about sex with unusual insight, and keen understanding of the nature of ambivalence…Sassone dramatizes the elusiveness of maturity, “the unruliness of existence,” and our habit of hiding our true selves, especially from ourselves.”
― Donna Seaman, Booklist

The Intimates astutely captures the transitional temper of [post-grad] time…In Mr Sassone’s rapturous details of still-ripening bodies, there’s something of Tom Wolfe’s very sexual 2004 novel I Am Charlotte Simmons…The essence of [sexual] “after-school adventures”—the kernel of the carnal—remains a secret in Mr Sassone’s world, even as it is the centrifugal force pulling his characters through the pages. Later, as Maize and Robbie discuss sex…they talk around this mystery, clearly frightened by its aura….[T]he novel’s language of desire is perversely dead-on. It also illustrates the fear that lurks behind our so-called straight talk about sex.All this is fascinating stuff.”
The Economist

“Examining the notion that lovers come and go but friendships last a lifetime…The Intimates paints a sometimes bleak yet realistic portrait of post-college life through early adulthood…Sassone deftly cuts to the core of the quarter-life crisis mindset…It’s hard to imagine any adult reader who wouldn’t identify with at least some aspects of his characters’ personalities…The Intimates is actually about the idea of families, the ones we’re born into and the ones we choose for ourselves.”
― Liz Raftery, The Boston Globe

“Ralph Sassone’s first novel explores the devastating emotional craters of first love, with its intense, irrational desire and long, immobile dry spells and the bumpy, often baffling relations between the generations.”

“A frank and charming portrait of unconventional love…As our heroes stumble through the revolving door of lovers, jobs, and (in Maize’s case) haircuts, a fascinating character study emerges.”
― Monica Riese, The Austin Chronicle

“A sensitive rendering of a remarkable friendship…With authenticity and an eye for the subtle machinations that can make or break relationships, Sassone has produced a moving, often funny novel that beautifully reflects the complexities of love.”

“Sassone’s immensely readable debut novel…does a great job of exploring the lives of his young protagonists through their sexual awakening and, eventually, as they stand on the cusp of real adulthood.”
― Poornima Apte,

“Ralph Sassone’s evocative and, in places, vividly erotic debut novel tells the story of Maize and Robbie, following their friendship—and their romances with others—from high school, through college, and into roommate-hood in NYC as they enter the wider world. It’s sensitive, funny, and poignantly well-observed.”
Barnes & Noble Review

The Intimates delve[s] into eroticism with originality and taste . . . [and with] near-perfect pitch. Reading [it] . . . will enrich your musings on friendship, family, and the many flavors of love.”
—Anne Pyburn Craig, Chronogram

“Maize and Robbie are immensely likeable and engaging and the novel, Sassone’s first, is full of dry, subtle humor…The sex is vivid and erotic without being trashy and revealing of the characters’ emotional remoteness even when physically intimate. Recommended for all fiction readers.”
Library Journal